Talking about sex while dating
If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. If you’re going to be a leader you have to know the Scriptures to teach God’s daughter. I am not saying that you should not be attracted to the person who you are dating because you should be. Is God working in his life and making him more like Christ? Instead of following your heart, you should follow the Lord. Seek His wisdom, seek guidance, seek clarity, and above all seek His will.If the person claims to be Christian, but lives like an unbeliever God didn’t send you that person. No type of ungodly person can do God’s will in marriage. Many people think they are in love for reasons such as the person’s looks, communication skills, etc. Do you believe God has called you to commit your life to this person in marriage? For example, sex, physical attraction, looking at other couples, constantly listening to love music, fear, constantly watching love movies, etc.8. That’s his precious little daughter that you want to take out. Listen to her, respect her, and always keep her into consideration. I don’t believe kissing is sinful, but I believe it can be. Anything that leads you to indulge in sexual thoughts is sinful. It’s not good to seek a relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to. I would not consider you as a "friend" at all if you stopped being friends with me when you are in a relationship and then came back when you are single. Because that's not how friendship works in my books and I would resent someone...To me, it sounds like you don't want friends, you want people who will be the 'females' in your life to talk to when you don't have one of your own. She makes her own bed coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed.It shows how Christ loved the church and laid down His life for her. No one besides the Lord will come before the person you are going to marry. You have to say no to everyone else when it comes to your spouse. Do you listen to His conviction or do you do what you want to do? Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. Never entertain a relationship just to have something in the meantime.The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word? The last thing that I want to talk about is guarding your own heart. When you fail at guarding your heart, you start thinking “maybe she’s the one” or “maybe he’s the one.” Everyone that you see and meet becomes the potential “one.” This is dangerous because it can easily create pain and hurt if it doesn’t work out.
On a recent date, I told the guy I’m not looking to dive into a sexual relationship.I’m interested in meeting people, getting to know them, developing a foundation of trust and open communication, and then, , embarking on a sexual relationship.He must not have heard me because he continued coming onto me, making comments such as, “I’ll watch your cat when you’re out of town — I’ll just ask for a make-out session in return.”And:“I give great sensual massages. and of those who are, few are so blunt — you have to be on your A-game to pick up on it. I had the opportunity to remind him: “But you know I’m not interested in sex — or make-out sessions, or anything of that sort at the moment.”“But you keep talking about sex,” he persisted. I think it’s important to be direct and straightforward about sex and not beat around the bush (no pun intended).Nor will you find anything about courtship, but we do have biblical principles to help you when seeking a Christian relationship. Marriage is probably the greatest tool in the sanctification process of a believer’s life. When you hear about Christians living in sexual sin they are false converts and not truly saved. If you get into a relationship with an ungodly person they will slow you down. God will replace the person He has taken away with someone better. You must keep your eyes on Christ and pray for His peace and comfort when you are single because you will kill yourself if you are constantly thinking about it. Sometimes God uses singleness to drive you in prayer. However, a woman should be careful to guard a man’s heart as well. Christian men and women are guilty of playing around with the opposite sex until they feel that they are ready to get into a relationship with that person. It is damaging to show interest in a woman, pursue her for a while, and then pull back.Marriage shows the relationship between Christ and the church. Two sinful people are united into one and they commit to each other in everything. Run to Christ and whoever is keeping up with you introduce yourself. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it? If she grows feelings for you she is going to be hurt if you decide that you never really liked her.
Some of you are in a relationship with the person that God wants you to marry and you will eventually marry. While you are praying for someone, someone is always praying for you.