Speed dating sex
The researchers raise the possibility that a male's sociosexuality may indicate his history of successful mating experiences or mating skills (i.e., high mating intelligence), and that this is attractive to women.
Another reason may be that those with a short-term mating orientation may have been more extraverted, and their extraverted behaviors were noticed and remembered more.
I think at least one reason sociosexual men do better in speed dating is because they don't take the proceedings too seriously. Someone who's relaxed and willing to take chances on flirting, light teasing, or engaging in off-the-wall humor, or someone who treats a meet and greet like a job interview?
This brings to mind many mistakes I've seen shy men make, either mistakes made by my friends or by men who were trying to date me.
Speed Dating is great from the perspective that you can meet many people in a short period of time, which makes it much more time efficient than many other dating methods.
And at an average cost of per event, that's just dollars a date.
Other research has shown that Extraverts do better than introverts in a rapid mating context such as speed dating (Luo & Zhang, 2009; also see : the more shy the man appeared, the less popular the man.
The researchers suggest that this may be due to traditional male sex roles, which require men to be assertive and proactive in the mating domain, skills that may not come as easily to shy guys.
The arguments for this seem either forced or just speculation because it seems that men who prefer casual encounters or are willing to engage in such, are less likely to want a long-term commitment.This finding was confirmed both after 6 weeks and 1 year after the speed-dating event. For busy people, speed dating may indeed be worth it. © 2010 by Scott Barry Kaufman References Asendorpf, J. Often the quiet or shy ones are overlooked but they are usually the ones who are best suited for long-term relationships and most ready to commit.Mind you, we're not going to get your adrenaline running 24/7 like those other guys but then again we won't treat you like second class citizens more often than not.I've already witnesses women saying one thing and chasing after the complete opposite and it simply goes back to the age old question: "What the hell do women want?" I think the study itself is confounded as it shows quantitave evidence that the majority of women go speed-dating to seek a long-term partner, but then rate the more sociosexual males higher.
Namely, they acted like getting into a relationship was the most important thing in their lives.