Discreet dating site

When matches started to come through, it was incredibly exciting. He seemed clever and funny, so I arranged to meet him in a bar one summer evening, telling my husband that I was out with work colleagues.

Hugh was closer to 50 than the 40 he had said he was, but it didn’t matter – he was handsome and as smart as he’d been online.

When I went home that night, I slipped into bed next to my husband and didn’t feel guilt, only exhilaration.

For a while, I thought I could carry on being married to a nice but unexciting guy, and have my fun on the side.

But eventually, after two years of using the site, my moral compass kicked in and I knew it wasn’t right, so I decided to leave my husband.

I set up an Illicit Encounters profile while my husband was out one day.

I used an image from my picture library – a colourful seashell – instead of a photo of me.

Why do some people feel the need to stand in judgement over others?